Balance - A Dance of Opposites.

Yin Yang the balance between masculine and feminine energy

When life feels overwhelming and harder than it should be, looking closely at our patterns or how we act is a way to determine where things are out of balance. Balance is the beautiful dance of opposites. The equilibrium that fosters harmony within oneself and the world.

Energetically, balance comes from the feminine and masculine energies contained within each of us. The Yin and Yang of life. Through my studies I am being guided to step more into my feminine energy, something that admittedly, I wasn’t aware I was missing. Before I go further, I want to be clear this is not a discussion on sexual orientation. This is about the life energies we all have within us.

Receptivity, flow, creativity, emotional depth, nurturing, and inner stillness is how the feminine energy is expressed. In contrast, masculine energy embodies action, structure, direction, protection, logic, and grounded presence. Look at yourself. You will notice that you have both energies, however you may resonate more with one than the other.

For most of my life I have unknowingly aligned more with the masculine. I was action oriented, logical, confident, grounded, independent, excelled in structure, and always had direction. When life was most difficult and not fun, it became apparent that I was too much in my masculine energy. I was rigid and always felt that I had to take action to get anywhere. Being more in my masculine created an imbalance within me. I forgot that I love to be creative. I didn’t allow myself to be receptive or still. I chased versus received.

This spiritual journey has taught me that I need to explore all aspects of me. Allow myself to experience the things that make me happy no matter how others may view them. Stepping more into my feminine energy has softened the hard edges and allows me to sit back and observe, enjoying the stillness.

There are still some beliefs about stepping more into my feminine that I need to unwind like - femininity is weak, always concerned about appearance, used to get her way, overly needy. You get the picture. Many of these beliefs were planted when I was young. I would look at the girls that received attention because of their looks. How people would bend over backwards to please them, and how I believed they would take advantage. To compete, I would try to stand out through sports or being able to do what the boys could do. Combine that with how society portrayed feminine women, all of it had a big impact on how I viewed femininity. Can I see how my beliefs are flawed? Of course, but limiting beliefs don’t have to be rational. They do, however, have to be identified, challenged and then released.  It will take time, but I have noticed a difference already in how I carry myself and view the world now that I am consciously tapping more into my feminine energy.

If you feel chaotic, uncontained or emotionally overwhelmed, you may be too much in your feminine and need your masculine grounding. Or if you feel burned out, rigid, or disconnected from yourself or others, you may be too much in your masculine and need the feminine nurturing to balance out. Balance is imperative to live a healthy and happy, physical, spiritual and emotional life. Check in with yourself and see where you may need to make changes to find your balance. I promise you will be thankful that you did.